Wagga's Agony Aunt answers your questions

IT'S TIME: Agony Aunt has advice for a man who says that he's tired of his partner's constant negativity.
IT'S TIME: Agony Aunt has advice for a man who says that he's tired of his partner's constant negativity.

I am a 50-year-old man and totally tired of the life I have with my wife.

She is the most negative, whinging person I know and I feel like I am drowning.

Nothing is or has ever been any good in her eyes - whether it be what I do or don't do, our friends, the kids even though they have left the nest, the state of the nation, the state of the world.

Seriously, she just complains from sunup to sundown.

I have told her I cannot deal with it anymore, but she passes my feelings off as just a "typical man" without feelings. Her words verbatim.

I cannot live like this any longer - I no longer like her, let alone love her.

A good counsellor should be able to retrain her thought processes into more pleasant and positive actions.

AGONY AUNT

Negativity and complaining can become all consuming with some people, and it sounds like your wife fits the bill.

I personally find people like her to be totally exhausting and depressing.

I take it from your letter that she has always been like this. I do wonder why you married her then.

Are you sure she has not become worse and more obsessed with negativity over the years, but you are now noticing it more?

Might be worth a moment to think back and be clear.

If she has worsened, I would suggest some serious need for a counsellor as there may be some underlying issue.

Even without any underlying issues, a good counsellor should be able to retrain her thought processes into more pleasant and positive actions.

My concern here really is that you say you no longer love nor like her.

Perhaps she needs to get help for herself and you need to start a new life.

No matter the path to be taken, it starts with a counsellor.

AA

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