My husband and I seem to be drifting apart.

We have been married for 12 years and used to be almost inseparable.

Now, I find we seem to have nothing in common and barely interact at all.

He is always out and about, I presume with his mates.

He is nearly 50 years old and semi-retired.

We haven't had sex for almost eight months.

And there seems to be no will on either of our parts to change that.

I know the love is still there.

He doesn't seem to think there is a problem.

I am sure he is not seeing anybody else, but I have no idea to fix things before they go too far.

What do you think about this, Aunty?

Well, I wouldn't be taking the boy's chauvinistic advice. Relationships are a two-way street.

It is not solely up to you to keep the relationship fires burning.

Apart from the general drift, the lack of sex - eight months is a terribly long time - is a major concern.

As I say so often, communicate!

What can be worse than having a deep and probably not entirely pleasant conversation with your husband?

I'll tell you: your marriage disintegrating.

Talk it out. I am sure the answer will be found.

Try getting away for a weekend and for God's sake get the bedroom happening.

Break the cycle of lack of interest or motivation and take care of business.

If all else fails, tell him you want you both to seek marriage counselling.

It would be very sad to see 12 years of your life go up in smoke due to lack of effort!

AA

Maybe he likes being with his mates.

Better start doing something to hold his interest!

Have you got a problem for Agony Aunt?

EMAIL: aunty.agony@outlook.com