Dear Agony Aunt,
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I have recently found out that my father is having an affair with one of our family friends.
I have not said anything to my mother and I am unsure what to say to my father.
This is not a figment of my imagination. I actually saw them kissing recently when they thought nobody was watching. It was pretty obvious there is a relationship happening between them.
Who do I talk to? My father? Or do I just tell my mother?
I'm really confused but it doesn't seem right to keep this secret.
AGONY AUNT
WHAT a mess. Unfortunately you have become embroiled in this and your choices are fairly limited. I applaud your sense of right and wrong and the fact that you have not chosen silence over honesty.
My instinctive reaction is that you speak very clearly with your father.
One could suggest that he does not deserve the opportunity to explain himself, but for the purposes of having all the cards on the table it surely is a preferred option.
Once you have the information or his explanation, (read excuse), you can decide what your path should be.
I personally believe that for you to keep his secret is absolutely wrong and will in time erode the relationship you have with both your parents.
Sometimes total honesty is painful but the alternatives are destructive. Follow your heart.
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HAVE a chat to your father!
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