DEAR AUNTY,
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I had been seeing this guy for a year and we hung out and went on a few dates. He introduced me to his family but as time moved on I wanted more from "us". Seems he didn’t "have time". End of relationship.
I dated another guy which didn’t work out.
Now I am back to seeing the first guy. It’s going good and we go on dates. This time I’ve gotten to know his friends but i still want more and he once again likes things the way they are.
I don’t know whether to give him an ultimatum or ride it out and see how things go. It’s been about two-and-a-half weeks and I’m just lost - what do I do or say next?
AGONY AUNT
I am a little amused by your letter. It is unclear what "the more" you want is.
I’m sure you’re not wanting, as the Boys' Club suggest, an engagement ring after a couple of weeks. You know you can’t just pick up from where you left off. There was obviously something not right then for you two to break up. So this is really like a new relationship. I’d be concentrating on making sure none of the mistakes from the previous attempt are repeated and perhaps just enjoying the relationship as it stands. Maybe you are expecting too much too soon which is a huge turn off for guys.
Good relationships take time. They also require a lot of patience and understanding. I suggest you employ both. Enjoy the journey without worrying about the destination.
BOYS' CLUB
TWO-and-half-weeks and you want what? An engagement ring? Get real!
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