I AM marrying my fiance after Christmas and I can’t wait. We’ve been engaged for two years and together for four, and we’re both really excited to be husband and wife and start our new life together

With all the wedding prep we’ve seen a lot of  his family, lots more than usual. My parents are both dead which means I have relied on my fiance's family quite a lot. My mother-in-law to be is wonderful – it’s her husband (my fiance’s stepdad) who is becoming a real issue.

I literally can’t stand him – he’s offensive, sleazy and I’m really worried he’s going to offend someone at the wedding. Which, of course, will spoil our day.

It is not my imagination or bridal jitters either, everybody says he is a jerk and will certainly cause some problem on the wedding day. I think it stems from his jealousy of the relationship with his wife, (my man's mother) and her son. 

I'm not sure how to handle this, any clues?

AGONY AUNT

WELL there is little doubt the celebrations of Christmas and weddings will bring out the worst in people.

To be honest there is little you can do to change this man’s offensive behaviour. If you were to speak to him prior to the wedding with the request for him to behave himself you can almost guarantee that he will behave even more offensively just to upset you and your man.

I guess your mother-in-law to be sees him for what he is and I am sure she will speak to him about what is expected of him.

Realistically you cannot change what will or won’t be. Don’t let him spoil this special day.

Sounds like most people know what he is so I am sure he will be sorted before he becomes too much of an issue.

Congratulations and good luck on your pending nuptials.

BOYS CLUB

DON’T worry about it. Sounds like you are making a mountain out of a molehill!

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