Dear Aunty,
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My boyfriend is cheating on me. He doesn't know that I know and I am unsure how to handle things without it becoming a real mess.
We have been together for five years.
One of his mates alerted me to what was going on and I have since done some checking and it is true.
He has been lying about where he goes and what he is doing and is seeing a woman across town.
He has always been a decent man but obviously no longer.
Can you advise me how to go about talking about this with him?
I don't want to get his mate into trouble.
I'm not sure whether I want to stay with a man who lies and cheats but I guess I need to hear his side of the story and see if there is anything to hold onto.
AGONY AUNT
He has been lying about where he goes and what he is doing and is seeing a woman across town.
It is never easy when we have to question the fidelity and honesty of our partner.
Cudos to the guy who informed you - not too many people have the courage to do what often should be done.
I would certainly keep his mate out of this as it is not a necessary part of any discussions you may have.
There is no easy way to confront your boyfriend, you just have to come out with it and be determined to get your answers.
Only with these can you decide what is to become of your relationship.
I suggest you don’t go shrieking and yelling even though you may well feel like it, just quietly and with resolve work your way through the things you need to know.
Don’t make any rash decisions, make sure that you can live with the spectre of him having cheated.
It is not easy, your thoughts and imaginings can be quite hurtful and damaging to your self esteem.
Take your time and look after your heart.
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