Dear Aunty,
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I desperately need some advice.
My husband, after five years of marriage has now decided to tell me that he doesn't want children.
We agreed before marriage that we would wait until we had been married for five years before we started trying for kids.
He gives me no reason for his change of plan and basically says that if I don't like the situation then I can leave.
In his world this is non-negotiable. I am heartbroken and confused.
I want children but also love my husband.
I feel cheated and seriously don't know what I am going to do.
AGONY AUNT
WELL, what a charmer your husband has turned out to be.
This is not like a disagreement over buying a car.
Having children is a major decision for a couple and to just blithely decide to pull out of an established agreement is plain and simply disgraceful.
To do so without explanation or contrition shows a very callous and arrogant man.
Will you still love him in ten years time when you have missed the opportunity to have children?
Think carefully and examine your heart. Maybe you should take him at his word and leave?
Only you can decide how important children are to you.
Seek counselling if you find yourself unable to decide, sometimes an outside and un-involved view shows clarity.
BOYS CLUB
HE DOESN’T sound like he’d be a great father anyway.
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